It was allegedly said that Idris Elba prefers African women because 'American Women' try to be everything but black...hmmm.
Here was his alleged comment:
"Idris Elba says he only dates AFRICAN WOMEN because black women in the states can't look good without weaves and make up. He said he'll consider american black women once they embrace their natural beauty and stop trying to be everything but black."
Now, even though I think his view is slightly off, it's not just African American women that wear weaves and pile on the make-up. However, there is something inside of me that says 'Yes, it's about time a black man in the media appreciates natural beauty and is bold enough to say it. I guess if he said he prefers black women to wear weaves than their natural coils we would be up in arms right ladies? Calling him a sell out and swear to never watch any of his films again. But are we selling out ourselves?
In the last three years I've seen this new phase of beauty which I like to call the Barbie imitation, where make-up is piled on so much that the lady in question looks completely different to her real self, almost like a mannequin. Don't get me wrong these ladies look drop dead gorgeous with the fake hair, fake eyelashes, fake skin tone and the way they blend the eye shadow and eyebrows is just off the hook. But does it take all that to be beautiful?
If beauty is truly in the eye of the beholder than why do we try and define it with artificial representations of what we think beauty is? I love wearing weaves, braids and make-up to enhance my beauty but I can not buy into the total transformation of hiding the real me. I'm fortunate to have a husband who is also African, (Ghana) and shares the same view as Idris, that natural God given beauty is best. When I read out Idris statement to him, he totally agreed that women these days wear too much make-up and appear to fake.
The one thing that worries me is what are we teaching our young black princesses? that beauty is contain in make-up bottles or you posses the beauty inside of just being yourself. I think as women from all nationalities we should pull back on the Barbie imitation look and celebrate our natural beauty, because in actual fact is does not take all that to be beautiful .
Her butt: 22%
Her chest: 17%
Her legs: 7%
Her face/eyes: 15%
The whole package: 29%